It is funny how children can’t wait to become adults and assume responsibilities and how adults cry for a chance to escape responsibilities. But such is the disillusionment of life. Credit card debts to pay, bills, car loan, mortgage, children to take care of, a husband to take care of, and a home to run… well, there are so many sources of stress in a normal woman’s life. However, you do not have to bring yourself down with stress. I remember there were times I would let it get to me, but I no longer allow that to happen. Once I accepted that life has challenges that will have the sole duty of trying to bring me down, I started looking for ways to de-stress, to make sure that all things said and done, I would remain strong.
Techniques to avoid stress in your adult life
No is good most of the time
No to borrowers, no to too much volunteerism, no to your children’s nagging and no even to your body. Believe it or not, that simple, two-letter word will save you from a lot of needless stress. If you are a people-pleaser, it means you are not in control of your life. It means you let other people ride roughshod over you all the time. Don’t! Colleagues want you to take over their assignments? Do not be a do-gooder. If you do not have time, do not take them.
Listen to your body
If your body tells you to rest, just rest. It will know when something is wrong with it, even before you know it. If your metabolic system is not right, it means you need to take care of your body. Most likely what you need is rest. Constipation, indigestion, fatigue, irritation and poor mood are all indications of a low metabolic rate and a very tired system. Time to recharge your batteries and manage stress.
Have more of your beauty sleep
While I do not agree with the National Sleep Foundation recommendation that all adults between the ages of 26 and 64 should have only 8 hours of sleep, I do believe that if you sleep right, they will be more than enough. De-clutter your bedroom, get rid of electronics, paint it a soft “sleepy” color, and then get the right lighting. It will be a daisy, you will see.
Create a sleeping routine, do it every day and then get accustomed to it. Once you tune your body, it will always alert you when it is time to sleep.
Get active, especially exercising
Yes. Get exercising, working out and doing lots of physical stuff. Have more sex for such physical activity leads the body system to release the feel-good hormones, thus leaving you feeling jovial and relaxed. Sitting around too much let cortisol levels in your system go up.
Avoid stress inducers
You may not believe it but nicotine, caffeine and alcohol make you more stressed, especially when you take them in large amounts. However, the problem is that we do not know when to stop because they are addictive. It is best to replace them with better things like green tea, fresh fruit juice and water.
Identify a de-stressing technique that works for you
For me, I just walk everything off my system. One power walk and I am good to think things through. My friend Jenny works out on the treadmill. I know people who just want to talk, rave and rant everything out of their system and then after that, they are good. Whatever works for you.
Finally… if you are a kid, don’t grow up. Just don’t! Adulting is no fun at all. Just imagine everyone expecting you to be a superhero when you are actually more timid than a rabbit.